Friday, January 20, 2012

Coffee Talk 1.20.12

Good morning!

Another day of in and out!  We are in the midst of schooling so I'm just dropping in for a moment.  At the moment, FB is reading and listening to Great Expectations, the other two school kiddos are doing their math assignments and I got Tigercub playing with Playdoh so I could sneak in here for a moment!

Nothing too exciting to say about the week.  We  had a normal week of activities and the normal running around.  We seem to be finally getting back into our normal routine after the Christmas holidays!

Tigerfan and I stayed up each night and worked on our adoption education courses and I can now proudly say, WE ARE THROUGH!  Yay, one step closer!

Today I hope to finish up another jewelry board that we are making to donate to our Orphan Care silent auction...hoping it will be really cute, of course I will post pictures next week.

I have also been reading a book that I TOTALLY recommend if you have children, or are planning on having children one day!  It is called Parenting by the Book by John Rosemond.  It is so common sense and yet common sense seems to have left our world these days.  I am telling you...I have been freed up so much in the past couple of weeks!  Now, if you love all the (in the words of the author) "psycho-babble" that has come out in the past 60 years, you may not appreciate the help this book offers, but he has basically thrown out all the advice given by "experts" over the last few decades and gone back to the REAL instruction manual...the Bible.  It makes SO MUCH SENSE, and yet I have really gotten sucked into so much of the modern ideas.  I am one of those guilt ridden, stressed out, hovering mamas...and I don't have to be!  As I have read this book, my eyes have been so opened...what do I want for my children?  I want them to be God fearing, Christ centered, service oriented men and women.  So why do I spend so much time teaching them to excel in academics, why do I stress myself out over getting an A, why do I hover when they do their work?  I want them to be self governing, but I am teaching them that they can't be successful unless I am inching them along each step of the way.

SO...this week, I have stepped back.  I have given them instruction, and then let them go.  If they fail, it is their fault and they learn they have to work harder.  If they succeed, they are proud because they did it ON THEIR OWN!  I have had less stress this week than I have had in fourteen years and it feels great!  AND...I am not even done yet.  More changes will be coming, I just need time to finish reading, praying and figuring it all out!  I just wish that I would have started this several years ago because I have a lot of bad habits to break now...we will all be grateful for it in the end, however...I really believe that.

Anyway, this weekend we will be doing some "honey do's" around the house.  We have our in home Home Study visit this week so we want to be prepared.  We also will celebrate Dancer's ninth birthday and Tigerfan's ? birthday, so we will be enjoying LOTS of celebrating.  I will TRY to add some pics next week...if I can get my act together.

Hope everyone enjoys their weekend and I look forward to visiting with you!  Be sure to head over to Home Sanctuary for more Coffee Talk!


Kathleen @ Kath Ink said...

I love John Rosemond. I started following him when he was published in our local newspaper. My husband & I talked about it so much that my mother in law bought the book you referenced! I also have some of his others. And two years ago, I heard him speak. I loved it! It is such common sense parenting. But I, too, have bad habits to break and have been sucked my the modern philosophy that it is good for me to read and re-read his stuff.

Oh, and congrats on finishing the adoption edcuation course. It has been awhile since I've come aroound for company coffee, I'm going to have to read back and get caught up on this!!!

Have a great weekend. We don't have plans, yet. I've been so thankful for empty January weekends.

Katharine said...

The book sounds really good, glad you are learning so much from it. I love when that happens! Yay for finishing your course! Have a great weekend of celebrating!

Anonymous said...

So glad to hear you guys are one step closer. Hooray for checking stuff off the list! (if there is a list)

I loved Great Expectations. Mrs. Havisham gives me the creeps though.

Lea also known as "CiCi" said...

I've been a fan of John Rosemond for a long time but haven't thought about him in ages. I am sure that his books remain as enlightening now as they did 35 years ago. He and James Dobson were two authors when I was a young Mom.

There's so many hoops to jump through in these international adoptions. You have to be led of the Lord, otherwise, no one would go through it.

Happy weekend with you sweet family.

secondofwett said...

Thevadoption process is long and complicated, glad you're making some headway! I will have to look into the book you recommended...a little late for e but not for my daughter and daughter-in-law.thank you! Have wonderful week!

Beth said...

I'm going to have to read this book! I don't have children, and am not even married yet, but it sounds like a liberating read. Thank you for posting about it!

Angie said...

Sounds like a good book; I'm glad it has already been a help to you.

I've talked to homeschool support group parents about deciding who you want your kids to be - the "what's non-negotiable." For the Martens house it was, 1) have a deep abiding love for God and His Word, 2) love learning and 3) enjoy work. We figured that covered most everything to make a responsible adult. So far two are grown and have turned out pretty good. Still have two more to go...with lots of prayer, God honors parent's efforts and makes up for what we lack.